What does the Bible say about Dads? How should a Dad act and what are his job duties? Most of what I found from studying the Bible is how we are supposed to direct, discipline, encourage, love and teach them. Also, that love should be our main reason for all that we do for kids. Here's what I found:
Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. - Proverbs 22:6
We are to give our kids direction. Hopefully, we are putting them on a positive path. They are influenced by our actions and look up to us for the 'road map'. It's best if we are following Jesus because He knows where He is going.
He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes. - Proverbs 13:24
Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him. - Proverbs 22:15
Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die. Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell. - Proverbs 23:13, 14
Discipline is important. According to the Bible, if you don't correct your child for doing wrong when they're young, it's going to hurt them down the road when they get older.
Kids do stupid things and we should expect it. Remember, we discipline them because we love them, not because they make us angry.
And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. - Ephesians 6: 4
Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. - Colossians 3: 21
Kids need encouragement because it keeps them motivated. When they do something that is totally awesome, we should tell them. They need the positive feedback.
Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. Charity never faileth. - 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8a
The word charity means love. As Dads, everything we do for our child should be done out of love for them. Love is more than just a hug and a kiss. According to the scriptures, it will involve:
And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up. And thou shalt bind them for a sign upon thine hand, and they shall be as frontlets between thine eyes. And thou shalt write them upon the posts of thy house, and on thy gates. - Deuteronomy 6: 6-9
We are to teach our children. This involves some one-on-one. As Dads, we have to make time to spend with them.
According to the Bible, our role as a Dad is a serious one. God has given us the responsibility of directing the paths of these wired-up little people that seem to starve for our attention. From the moment they are born, our job is basically to help them become outstanding citizens by planting them firmly on a foundation of Christian values in a world that's going downhill fast. And it's not going to get any better any time soon.
Debt is created when we borrow money from someone or something like a financial institution such as a bank. They make it easy for us by providing us with those cool plastic cards for swiping. If you look around in the world today, it seems like everybody has one. They look like a bunch of Credit Card Ninjas out there swiping junk. The problem is that we are spending money that we don't own – it's other people's money. We're basically saying that we will pay them back and give them a little extra for letting us use it. They're hoping we won't be able to so that they can charge us more in penalties and whatever else they can put at the end of our credit card statements every month.
This creates a problem in the marriage because one or both parties are borrowing more than what the couple earns in wages. They're broke because they're overspent. Now they are working harder to pay back loans. This is stressful and it shouldn't be this way. God's plan is simple:
God invented sex. It's great for making babies. The world is overpopulated today because a lot of people are doing it. Animals, in the water and on land, are doing it. Let's face it! It's great recreational fun and a wonderful pass time for husbands and wives all over the world. It's better than baseball, fishing and hunting! It relieves stress and tension. That makes it great for our health, too. So why is sex one of the top reasons for divorce?
Here are the problems with sex in the marriage:
Too Little Sex
Too Much Sex
Sex With The Wrong Person (Adultery)
For the most part, it's a quantity issue. It seems that some people in a marriage think of sex as a bad thing and don't want it at all or very little. Some think that sex is entirely what the marriage is all about and want it 24/7. If they can't get it, they'll find it elsewhere. They're all wrong. Marriage is about love and sex is the spiritual topping on the marriage cake. It adds the flavor of sweetness and makes it worth taking a bite into.
Jude 1: 1-16
The book of Jude begins with a shout-out to the folks he was writing to:
“...to them that are sanctified by God the Father, and preserved in Jesus Christ, and called:” Jude 1: 1
This tells me that this letter isn't just for everyone. Oh no! The readers had certain characteristics to be qualified to read this thing. Here's a breakdown of those qualifications:
Matthew 14: 23-33
I have heard sermons preached on these verses from Matthew. It seems to be a message on faith and how we as Christians should put all of our trust in the Lord. Peter’s faith was tested when he took the step out of the boat and began walking on the water. As long as he had his eyes on the Lord he could walk towards Jesus, but when he looked away and focused on the storm around him, instead of Jesus, he began to sink. This is a true message for us in our Christian walk, but is this the only message from these verses?
1 Thessalonians 5: 12-28
Paul ends this letter to the Thessalonians with what seems to be a long list of To-Do's and Don'ts. He undoubtedly considers this list important because he tells us that this is God's will for us. These are probably pertaining to the church setting. Let's look at them:
2 Timothy 2: 14-26
Paul is telling Timothy about how to be an effective worker for the Lord. From the verses it seems that one of the tools we have is our mouth because of the stuff that comes out of it. It can build people up and lead them to the Lord. Or it can tear people down and confuse them and lead them astray.
It's important that we watch our words carefully. It's almost like we should think about what we are going to say first, and if it glorifies God or encourages others, let it flow. If not, we should probably keep our mouths shut. The reason here is that the world is looking at us through magnifying glasses. If we're saying that we're Christians, people will try to find flaws in it to try and justify why they're not. We may be the only 'Jesus' they see and we should make sure we are representin'. You know?
If we are in a position of sharing God's Word with others, we have to be careful of how we present it. We shouldn't get into debates about Christianity, the Bible, God and all that stuff. This creates arguments and folks start getting mad. It doesn't solve anything. All we have to do is share the Word and let it do it's own thing.
The important thing, as Christians, is that we're serving the Lord. If we have junk in our life that is keeping us from being effective, we should throw it in the garbage. Turn from it! The Lord wants us to be vessels for Him to do some cool stuff. He wants to pour from an empty vessel that's clean, without that yucky residue from last week's leftover gunk. Would you want to drink from something like that? I wouldn't either.
Let's get rid of the sin in our life that's holding us back.
1 Peter 3: 8-22
There are so many verses throughout the Bible that encourages everyone to live in peace and love with one another. But, you look around the world today and it seems like a lot of folks have become so self-centered that they could really care less about someone else.
“It's all about me!”
“What can I get out of life? And who do I need to step on to get me there?”
It seems like that's pretty much the philosophy of the world. I mean, there are some folks that reach out to others out of kindness, but it seems like they are far and few between.
Acts 19: 1-20
There's a lot of stuff going on in these twenty verses from Acts Chapter 19. You sorta have to break it down and read it slow and think on it for a little bit.
Paul arrived in Ephesus and met up with 12 disciples; basically 12 men that were followers of John the Baptist. Paul questioned their faith and it appears they weren't saved. They did get baptized by water according to the teachings of John, but because they didn't have the Holy Spirit living within them, they were simply men that went through the process of getting wet. It seems they didn't get the full concept of asking Jesus for forgiveness of their sins and asking Him to come into their lives. Yes, they may have gotten dunked in a water pool, but they didn't know that this was just an outward expression of their salvation. Paul presented them with the memo and they believed.
This is similar to how many people believe today. Some think they are saved because of a bloodline genetic thing handed down from a family member. Or maybe by going to church and shaking the preacher's hand. Some may actually go through the process of getting baptized and think that's what it's all about. But, it's not! It's about true repentance. It's where a person realizes they are lost in sin without Jesus and have never asked for forgiveness of it and turned from it. True repentance is where you know that you are separated from God because of the junk in your life. The Holy Spirit convicts your heart and one day you wake up and call out to Jesus to save you with sincerity, not from repeating some meaningless words that someone tells you to say. It's real and from your heart. That's the deal! The day you got saved is when the Holy Spirit began living within you.
Romans 3: 1-8
Sin is a serious thing even though many of us take it for granted. I guess we don't realize that it separates us from God. Everyone in the world is guilty and is condemned because of it; you, me, them. We're sinners!
From these verses, you can read where Paul strips down the excuses people have as to why they don't consider themselves a sinner. We can apply this to our lives today. Here are some of our common excuses:
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